
i follow her instructions to the letter one and a half cups for every cup rinse with more seriousness than usual neutral cooking oil instead of coconut boil the water first allow the rice to open turn the heat down low, low, low as low as you can get it it doesn’t come close there must be something in a grandmother’s hands a certainty perhaps a wisdom that can only come from repetition and loving intention the way my own Mother instinctively knows how to make my son giggle how he reaches for her and no other the sureness of her hands the internal rhythm of her every movement the hums and rhymes and ease and comfort and joy she emits it flows naturally as though from a well deep inside her some sacred grandmother reservoir containing every recipe, lullaby, well-worn memory earned through Motherhood the profound unfaltering knowing the art of making the perfect rice the art of soothing and delighting a sixteen-month-old grandson the exquisite art of a grandmother’s hands